anyway, i just survived a verbal massacre. one ugly ones. between the close peeps in my life. you know how when you are in a fight with your siblings and your mom comes and makes everyone stand in a straight line and then ask who started it, and EVERYONE starts playing the 'blame game'?
yeah. i just had that. only this time around, i was forced to be in the middle of it, and they're all into their second decade of life. pathetic, maybe. needed, definitely.
but lets not go to that excruciating details of it, because im now struck with the wave of insomnia, thanks to the shock of being forced to be there.
well except for the part where i openly declared "i need to pee" and managed to leave battlefield for 20mins before they came hunting for me.
ugh. scary gila babi okay?
have anyone heard about one-perspective problem?
yes. its new, its there, its unsaid.
remember the fight you have with your best friend.
or the fight with your boyfriend.
or with your mom or your sister.
it could really be about anything and everything, but essentially this is why we have that fight.
'because your perspective (or side of the story) is not my perspective; hence it is automatically wrong and it is dumb'.
yes, as simple as that.
how many times the person at the other end of the fight does not want to listen to you, because it is not what he thinks the explanation should be; or at least it did not sound like what he wants it to be.
and you continue to shut your brain from receiving that person's explanation; simply because
1- you can
2 - well, he's not explaining it correctly.
of course, when it comes to this context, when we talk about 'correctly' explaining something, it's something to do with 'explaining something like how i wanna hear it because if it's not; then it doesnt apply'.
Dumb as you're reading through this post, maybe. but how many times have we been stuck in such a moment?
the moment of i dont wanna talk to you because you're not making sense.
don't worry, you're not the only one. i have them too, but really, i know its there. the problem is there.
so what would be the solution when you come across OPP (one-perspective problem)?
two words : SHUT UP. and then you listen, and then consider.
its really that simple. just because it doesnt fit your perspective of how you want things to be, or how you think it is, doesnt make it wrong.
it just makes it different.
because sometimes, you see everything from different angle. its like that story of these 5 blind men feeling elephants and describing the elephant.
blind man 1 : it has long nose
blind man 2 : it has big leg
blind man 3 : it has big tummy
blind man 4 : it has small tail
blind man 5 : it has rough saggy skin.
now, think about this. just because blind man 1 said elephants have long nose, doesnt mean that elephants do not have big leg, big tummy, small tail and rough saggy skin.
its just that you're seeing (or since they're blind, the correct word would be 'feeling') the different part of it.
sometimes, all we need to solve a fight is to listen to what the other person have to say.
remember, key word is : SHUT UP. yes. say it with me, SHUT UP.
let us all fight OPP!
I know i've started, but have you?
-kaydeeeeeeeeeee-
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